5 Minute Drill | Speak Up
Is it Time To Speak Up?
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So I had a series of conversation on facebook where I asked my friends what their top needs were and if they communicated that to their spouses or significant others. The first thing that amazed me about the response was the lack of male feedback. I am sure that they could give me tons of reasons why they didn't respond however that doesn't really matter. This got me thinking about what we say we want versus what we really want. I mean if you are not able to communicate to the person that you are committed to what your needs are, can they really be considered a need? My wife has been kind-of reading a book entitled, "Men read newspapers, not minds". You have got to communicate your needs and once you have done that then it is on the other person to accept or reject fulfilling that need.
You have to be careful with that though. Once you open that door than you are also liable to your spouse for the same thing. That lead to another question that I asked, "What would your spouse like to change in you and why haven't you done that for them?" This question is one of the reasons that I am going to the gym and have revamped, for the most part, my eating habits. My wife has made amazing changes in her life to live healthier and has asked me to do the same on many occasions. So now I am and will continue to live healthier for her...
Times Up... What do you need to share? It is time to Speak Up!
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Added after the drill because I can. Another reason that I made this shift in thinking was when I reread this scripture,
"The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife." - 1 Corinthians 7:4
I know this might be a stretch, since this scripture is talking about sex, but to me it also says that I have to defer to my wife in the maintenance and upkeep of this body because it belongs to her the same way hers belongs to me. Does one spouse have the authority to ask the other for this type of thing? Does the other spouse have to comply? Just asking...
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