God's Man | Build Bridges in Marriage...
I am in the process of conducting pre-marital counseling with a great couple at our church. There wedding is rapidly approaching and I am excited for what God is doing in their lives. When we discussed conflict we talked about building bridges instead of walls in their marriage. Here are three of the tips that we discussed. Lower Your Voice and Speak Slowly Typically, the raised voice and rapid speech are telltale signs that we are out of control — that super-heated emotion is taking over. In those frames of mind, we usually come across as angry, hostile, controlling, but not in charge even of ourselves and our own emotions. A cool, calm low voice sends the message that we are not only in control, but that we have something of significance to offer the stressful situation. Say You Care Conflict arises when needs are not being met or when wants and desires are at cross-purposes. The underlying message is that the offending party “really doesn’t care.” One is not concern